"I feel that becoming a more self-confident person with a goal of higher self-worth is something we all desire to achieve. Telling you exactly how to do it though, is not easy. There isn’t just one answer."
I’m only 20, and already in my teenage and young adult life, social media use for my generation has skyrocketed. I must admit, for an introvert like myself, having a social media page allows me to feel connected to the world without actually having to go out in it. But with this comes a massive amount of pressure to look good for my online account. My fitness page is a tool for myself to track progress, gain confidence and to share my journey with all who cares to follow. I feel that becoming a more self-confident person with a goal of higher self-worth is something we all desire to achieve. Telling you exactly how to do it though, is not easy. There isn’t just one answer.
What I’ve come to learn is this:
If you're putting all of your efforts into physically training every day and making it to the gym but absolutely no effort into challenging your mind, you’re not going to be content. If you don’t intentionally alter your perceptions of yourself and speak kinder and confident words to yourself internally, then I do not believe that any amount of physical effort is ever going to make you feel as if you’re “good enough”. Having said that, I think training is one of the most powerful and constructive ways to build a higher sense of self, but constantly chasing weight loss or focusing on physical alteration to love yourself more is not the solution. Your mind matters too, and this was a huge stepping stone in my personal journey to self-confidence.
I believe that it is important to make lots of mistakes. Learn something from each and every one of them. Even situations you see as negative always have a lesson. One of the most important things I’ve learned so far is that it is important to feel sadness but don't make a home there, or get comfortable there. Be forgiving - unconditionally forgiving - for yourself when you are not at your best. Don’t forget to remind yourself on a daily basis how amazing you are for coming such a great distance in a short period of time. Everything is relative, no matter how small it may seem at the time. Don’t get into this mindset that you can buy happiness; practice it. Practice gratitude, all the time, even when you feel like life is kicking you down. One of the oldest sayings, of treating people the way that you would want to be treated still holds true. Make the people around you feel safe, supported, cared for and understood. But more importantly, make your priority making yourself feel safe, supported, cared for and understood. Success for everyone is different. We weren’t put on this earth to become direct copies of each other. We all have our own stories and our own journeys with different destinations. Think hard about the things you truly love and are passionate for. Never stop embracing, chasing and revolving your life around those things.